# How I Attained Persistent Self-Love, or, I Demand Deep Okayness For Everyone

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## Metadata
- Author: [[Sasha Chapin]]
- Full Title: How I Attained Persistent Self-Love, or, I Demand Deep Okayness For Everyone
- Category: #articles
- URL: https://sashachapin.substack.com/p/how-i-attained-persistent-self-love

## Highlights
- Deep Okayness is not the feeling that I am awesome all the time. Instead, it is the total banishment of self-loathing. It is the deactivation of the part of my mind that used to attack itself. It’s the closure of the self as an attack surface. It’s the intuitive understanding that I am merely one of the apertures through which the universe expresses itself, so why would I hate that? It’s the sense that, while I might fuck up, my basic worth is beyond question—I have no essential damage, I am not polluted, I am fine.